I have a son who will be fifteen years old soon. We disagree. Often. That being said, he is still my child. Last time I checked, it was my responsibility to raise him to become a decent adult. Part of becoming a decent adult is knowing that there will always be rules. The only people who live their lives without following rules (of some sort or other) eventually end up in prison.
In our house, there are certain video games, movies, TV shows, and books that aren't allowed. If there is a TV show that has inappropriate content, we don't allow the kids to watch it. There is a particular series of books that my son has been reading. I don't agree with the content of these books. Before I get into this any deeper, let me just say... I love books. I love to read. I frequently had my nose in a book when I had free time. I encourage my children to read.
Anyway, he brought one of these books home a couple of times and was told not to bring them into the house. He then lied about checking them out of the library. We find out again that he is reading this series while he is at school. We ask him and he tells us, "No, I'm reading such and such."
Well, today, my hubby went to a parent/teacher conference with one of my son's teachers. (I had class all day.) The conference was really good except that the teachers all said that my son gets in too big of a hurry to finish his work so that he can read. My hubby casually asks, "Oh, what's he been reading?" They reply that it was the series that we had told him repeatedly not to be reading. OK, I'm getting to the point here.
Hubby calls the Librarian to see if he can get a record of the books that our child has been checking out. Would you like to know what she told him?
"No, I'm sorry we can't do that. It would be violating your child's right to privacy."
HELLO!!!! My child doesn't have privacy rights! We are his parents. If he were to crash a car into someones house. Who do you think would be responsible for paying for it? I'll tell ya who! We would! This world has become so backwards. Political correctness has taken away a parents' control. Then they wonder why kids act like they do today.
Tuesday, March 11, 2008
What 'Child Rights'?
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Oh my dear! I see so many kids on a daily basis at school and I'll tell you right now, the ones who act the worst are the ones whose parents will believe anything their kids say and take up for them no matter what. There comes a point where you have to do what's best for your child whether it's the popular choice with your child. I've seen so many shows about not looking through your child's room or anything they have because it's violating their privacy. In my opinion, you pretty much own their privacy as long as they live under your roof. It's not that we have bad kids, teenagers just make bad decisions sometimes. We are living testaments to that. haha Good luck. I'll be praying for ya'll because I've been there myself. Take care!
I still can't belive she told me that. But to make it worse, it was not a rule at the school....It was a Law!!! What would we do without our government protecting kids from parents prying into their kid's lives.
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The LAW??? I wouldn't think that the law includes parents in that act. I could be wrong, but maybe she is not reading it correctly. I think I'd be finding out. Those laws are in place to protect kids from predators not parents. What a bunch of crap.
You think its bad that you can't find out what books he's checking out! When Jeff worked at the health dept., he sometimes counseled girls getting birth control or that were pregnant. And these girls could come get birth control or pregnancy test and their parents were completely left out of the whole thing! All because of their "privacy." Our government has it all screwed up, and then they wonder why the JDC's are so full! Oh! but you would be responsible for that.
Oh my goodness, That is crazy. I have worked at many schools over the years of my travels around the world. And over time the parents have been taken out of the loop on some many things. No wonder this world has gotten so bad. Kids are raiseing their selves. Good luck, my prayers are with you guys & anyone else out their that have children. This isn't an easy world to raise children in. And it will only get worse until Jesus comes. K. Barnes
As a teacher, I know this is frustrating. With me being a Christian teacher, it is equally hard, because you are right, it is a law, not a rule. As a teacher, I always walk on egg shells not to offend my student's rights, and it is hard and demoralizing at times. Teach him God's word, and pray that your son will make make wise, responsible decisions, even when you are not there. I know he is a good boy- Jr. High is the time when they push- I see it with all kids, ALL the time!! You are a great parent, and you are doing the right thing. Don't give up!! With parents like you, the laws may eventually change! : )
This is a very hot subject for me... I'm sure you have some idea of how we stand, being homeschoolers. I can not imagine my reaction if there were an educational institution telling me that I didn't have the right to keep an eye on the activities of my own child while "they" do?
I suppose that is no surprise - my view of the public education system is not positive. Do note that I am not talking about the teachers. I had many great teachers. So many are hobbled by the endless rules & regulations piled on by our intrusive, ever so presumptuous government.
The ability to raise up children according to family morals or beliefs is being eroded by an entity which believes that the system, even the peers(!), should have more insight into our children's lives than parents themselves. A most obvious case of "we know what's best for you."
Oh, darn it... That silly soapbox again.
I do want to say, we homeschool for the joy and the time together - not having to deal with all the other bologna is just a special perk. We are very lucky to be able to do so. But the opportunity we enjoy was a hard fought battle for those who came before us. Again - parents having to prove their ability to a government that would love to remain unquestioned.
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